I know some people might look down on this, but my boyfriend and I practice some “queer” lifestyles. We are into the M/s scene and not just in the bedroom. I wear a collar at all times and often refer to him as Master or Sir, as this is a full lifestyle for us. But we are considerably low key about the Master/submissive relationship.
We plan to build a full life together and part of that life is children. Which has brought an interesting question to my mind. I am firm in my decision, but I would like to know the opinion of others.
Does anyone believe that you can pursue a relationship like this without altering a child’s mind? Does anyone think that doing this in front of the children is ok as long as we assure them that this is not a “normal” lifestyle, but instead an individual one that their father and I have chosen to pursue.
Mind you, some advice may be used, but that is not what I’m asking for. I just want to know the opinions of others.
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My husband and I practice a D&s lifestyle, and we have children. I personally don’t think that it affects them in any way other than a positive one, because they see the two of us in a very loving relationship with one another. We do not blatantly flaunt our sexual preferences, that’s nobody’s business, least of all our children’s, but they have no doubt that my husband is the head of our household. We show each other loving respect, and I believe that my submissive role as a wife in turn makes me a better mother, as my main priority is doing my part to keep things running smoothly with the house and the family. We generally reserve certain things for playtime, such as the titles Master and pet, but I do on occasion call him Sir, there’s nothing wrong with using good manners. I sometimes wear a collar or necklace when we go out, but as a rule, I do not wear it if we’re with the children.
The person that posted above talking about being bullied should probably read up a bit on BDSM lifestyles, any true Dominants I know would never dream of bullying their submissives! Good BDSM relationships are based on trust, never fear. How could it be bad for children to see their parents loving and trusting one another?
EDIT: After reading some of the other answers, I have to add. My daughter is almost 15. She’s incredibly strong minded, and independent, and it would be a cold day in hell before she’d be anyone’s doormat……and she learned much of that from ME, the submissive parent! My son is almost 10, and he’s a kind hearted and respectful little boy that would never dream of bullying anyone. People should clear up their misconceptions about BDSM before commenting.
WELL IT DEPEND ON HOW FAR YOU GO AROUND YOUR CHILD . YOU WOULDN’T WONT YOUR CHILD TO THINK THIS IS LIFE . “A WOMAN IS A MANS’ PET !” RESPECT YOUR MAN , LOVE YOUR MAN , EVEN SUBMIT TO HIM , BUT THE COLLAR ?!? IS IT YOU IDEAL OR HIS FOR YOU TO WEAR IT ALL THE TIME . I DON’T THINK IT WOULD BE A GOOD THING FOR YOU TO WEAR AROUND THE CHILDREN . HOPE THIS HELPS.
ok well i think your entiteld to your way of life but i think children pick up on things very easily and if they see certian things they mite just thinks its normal and go of and do it them selfs so if u wanted them to grow up as there own people u would most certinaly have to do it in a controlled manner as not to encourage them hope all goes well for you good luck